Why service clubs could help solve America's loneliness crisis — Richard Kyte Richard KyteThe Ethical Life Nov 11, 2026 5 hrs ago 0 Prefer us on Google Learn More Facebook Twitter Bluesky WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save About 20 years ago, I was introduced to the idea of the third place. It comes from sociologist Ray Oldenburg. Richard Kyte is director of the D.B. 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