The holiday custody battle: What the law says when parents can't agree on Thanksgiving or Christmas Matthew Skillern for Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers Nov 12, 2026 Nov 12, 2026 Updated 29 mins ago 0 Two young children sitting on wooden stairs, wearing blue winter jackets and knit beanies. Volchenkova Olga // Shutterstock Prefer us on Google Learn More Facebook Twitter Bluesky WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save Matthew Skillern for Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers kAmu@C 5:G@C465 2?5 D6A2C2E65 A2C6?ED[ E96 H66<D 36EH66? %92?<D8:G:?8 2?5 }6H *62CVD s2J A24< 2 J62CVD H@CE9 @7 D4965F=:?8 4@?7=:4ED :?E@ 2 92?57F= @7 52JD] (9@ 86ED r9C:DE>2D >@C?:?8n (92E E:>6 5@6D E96 6I492?86 92AA6?n (92E 4@F?ED 2D QD49@@= 5:D>:DD2=Q H96? 42=6?52CD G2CJ 3J 5:DEC:4En %96D6 BF6DE:@?D 92G6 =682= 2?DH6CD[ 3FE 86EE:?8 E@ E9@D6 2?DH6CD @7E6? C6BF:C6D 4@FCE :?G@=G6>6?E] r@FCED >2J 92G6 =:>:E65 E:>6 E@ 255C6DD =2DE\>:?FE6 5:DAFE6D @G6C 9@=:52JD E92E 92G6 366? @? 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